Monday, June 22, 2009

Fired up over Opinions!

I've been in the process of trying to get my Vegas post ready for all of you but in this slow and tedious process, I've found myself all fired up about something.

You know that point where you are in the shower or driving along and you find yourself talking to yourself or maybe playing out a conversation in your head. You may be yelling inside really. Rehearsing over and over what conversation you will soon be having with someone? That's where I'm at right now.

I can be an aggressive person at times depending on the situation. For instance, you stand too close to me in line, you'll get the flick of the hair. You say something about it, I'll let you know how I feel. Or, while driving and you cut me off or something, expect the same in return. I have mellowed out about this one some but if I'm in a crappy mood, I may not be so mellow at the time. Or, if you act like a snob to me for no apparent reason, I somehow become a snob right back at ya. Kind of giving you a taste of your own medicine.

But when it comes to opinions, I have very strong opinions about things in life, in this world. I share them with some of my family and friends....ONLY! I never want to offend anyone. If I do start to have a discussion with someone about one of my strong points of what is going on in this world and if I notice the person is not liking my opinion and is feeling uncomfortable, I'll stop. WHATEVER! Change the subject.

On the other hand, I also don't care what others think either. I just have compassion for their feelings, I guess. With that said, I try to be respectful to others at the same time (until someone doesn't respect me, then they have a problem). I'm a mom and I have to set a positive example. Sometimes I feel I fail at this but I'm still learning from my mistakes.

With this all being said, I am currently dealing with a situation with someone whom I will not name but happens to be someone close to me. "Someone" and I were talking about a "person" smoking while pregnant (not confirmed pregnant though) and when "someone" automatically got all nasty and pushed out of shape about it, I got irritated. Now, normally that is where I would have dropped it. But because I am always "dropping it" and I felt strongly about this subject cause it was taken to the next level where it means health and safety for another, I pursued the issue on. I got an attitude too! First "someone" got the attitude and then so did I. I felt passionate about it cause I'm a mom and I felt like "someone" had I was thrown. Disappointed really! Then I told "someone" that we needed to "drop it" now cause I was getting upset, mad basically. "Someone" wasn't getting it. Not. At. All.

I later find out that "someone" wasn't so upset about the conversation but the fact that I got an attitude. Um...riiiiight! I got an attitude because "someone" got seriously nasty at the get go and I was dead set on my opinion on this subject. I feel I never share my true opinions on things and when I do, I'm having an attitude?? You're damn straight I do!

Okay, now that I let off some steam, I promise to get my Vegas post up soon......real soon!


The Adventures of France & Deirdre said...

I know how you feel Kim! And I am waiting for your Vegas post too! :)

The Wife O Riley said...

I hate when someone accuses you of being nasty because you have a difference of opinions! Good for you for standing up!

Awaiting Vegas post!

lagirl said...

It would be boring if we all had the same opinion on everything. Sometimes our differences are what keeps life interesting...Hope today was a better day!