In a lot of cases, this could be a good thing. However, in my case, it's not.
You see, my dad has this thing about how he makes his rounds with my brother, mom and I. He's get pissed off at us for the stupidest thing and then holds a grudge for some time. When he gets mad, he is a bit extreme. It's his way or no way, basically. In fact, once he refused to talk to me for a whole year. His own daughter! Honestly, I can't even remember what it was about. That's how petty it was.
Well, on Wednesday my mom and I had gotten into a bit of a tiff. My mom is sensitive and I feel I have to watch what I say with her, and honestly, I know I can be the same way but I feel I was not at wrong and as a parent, I'm standing firm on this. However, it's also something that is, in my mind, water under the bridge now.
Well, evidentally, my brother called me this evening to tell me that he talked to my mom and my mom told my brother to call me to let me know that she has been sick over what happened on Wednesday and that she loves me. Oh, and then my brother goes on to add that my dad is apparently mad about the situation.
My response to that would be......"OF COURSE HE IS!!!
My dad will take any opportunity he can get to be pissed off at any one of us. Honestly though, it's been a few months since my dad has been mad at me so I should have know that my time was coming. Coming indeed....it has arrived! Yah me! Might as well hurry and get it done and over with until next time, right?!
It seizes to amaze me though. I'm 36 yrs old and my dad still treats me as if I'm a child still living at home. Sorry Dad....it's been 16 yrs in case you hadn't noticed!
My only issue is, I want to go to church tomorrow but he'll be there with my mom. How awkward will that be? Should I sit next to them or not? I know I shouldn't let him get in the way of my relationship with God but my dad kind of has that affect on us. I just prefer to avoid the whole situation or silence, for that matter.
What do you think?
3 comments:
I think you need to be able to live your life and do what you need to do. At the end of the day, you choose whether to give him the power or not. I say keep the power and ignore him. Good luck!
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What a tough situation. I really hope that things get better and sorry your dad is like that. It is so easy to let things come inbetween God. I hate that.
This is a hard one Kimmy. I myself am a grudge holder/avoider, but what I continue hearing over & over again in the church message is, "The enemy cannot fight love."
The message is that showing love to someone who is angry or that we don't like, etc. diffuses the entire situation.
So pray about it & see what happens.
I'd love to hear a story about you walking up to your dad (while he's mad at you), hug him & tell him, "I know you're mad at me dad, but I want you to know that I love you!"
I know it's easier said than done, but this is what I'm working on too! WHEW...k sorry, there's my sermon for the day!LOL!
Have a great week Kimmy!
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